This week we are becoming agents of change. As we discover our true selves, we can experience intimacy more deeply. As our awareness is enhanced we are able to make that personal choice to change our relationships and situations. Today, now that we have more insight into ourselves and our relationships, we can take it a step further.
Day 9 – Making a Good Relationship Better
CENTERING THOUGHT
My good relationships are growing into ideal relationships.
SANSKRIT MANTRA
Om Shreem Namah (I invoke the archetype of beauty, gratitude, and generosity.)
MESSAGE OF THE DAY
In today’s meditation, we explore how we can improve the two basic types of relationships we have in our lives. For static relationships, which are the more comfortable and predictable connections we have, we improve them with appreciation and real listening. Dynamic relationships are deeper, more meaningful, and also more challenging. We make dynamic relationships better by allowing the intimacy of our connection to continue to grow.
Journal Reflection Questions:
1. Reflect on one static relationship in your life, with someone you feel comfortable around and who doesn’t push your buttons. To improve this relationship, write down something you can do today that gives it positive reinforcement, such as showing you care, you are listening, you are here to be trusted, you don’t judge, etc.
2. Now reflect on one dynamic relationship in your life, with a person who helps you to grow but can also make you feel challenged, exposed, or vulnerable. What is the next step of evolution you want to take with this person? Write down simple words like more honesty, more openness, more intimacy, more trust. Visualize yourself discussing this with that person, and describe in your journal the best possible desired outcome from the conversation. When you feel comfortable, consider actually having this conversation.
3. Reflect on the most evolutionary relationship in your life, the one that has led to the most inner growth and self-awareness. Journal about ways you could put more time and attention on this relationship. If such a relationship doesn’t exist for you right now, set the intention to find one by writing down the traits you would most desire in this person. With this intention in mind, keep your eyes open for that person who fits your idea of a companion in your next stage of growth.
4. Reflect further on your experience today.
“As the sun makes ice melt, kindness causes misunderstanding, mistrust, and hostility to evaporate.” – Albert Schweitzer